278. "We spend 108% of what we make. Are we screwed?"

Ramit unpacks how to stop overspending, take control of your money as a couple, and prepare financially for starting a family.

Ramit Sethi of I Will Teach You to Be Rich talks with Grace and Chris, who are 30 and 29 and have been married for six months. They have around $119,500 invested and unusually low housing costs, yet their finances feel chaotic and unstable. They spend more than they make, struggle to understand where the money goes, and have never had a substantive conversation about money as a couple.

The deeper problem is the dynamic they’ve fallen into. Grace handles most of the money while Chris takes a back seat, and both avoid the uncomfortable conversations they know they need to have. With children now part of their near-term plans, Ramit pushes them to confront where their habits came from and what has to change before the stakes get even higher.

In this episode, we uncover:

• Why Grace feels like she’s managing their money alone

• How Chris’s avoidance keeps the same cycle going

• Why “we’ll figure it out later” keeps costing them

• How a $100 weekend budget disappeared at a baseball game

• Why 108% fixed costs are only part of the problem

• How Amazon, eating out, and social spending keep slipping through the cracks

• How inheritance, a mortgage-free home, and family support shaped their relationship with money

• How their childhoods taught them to avoid talking about money

• Why starting a family makes their financial situation more urgent

• How they can finally start making financial decisions as a team

Chapters:

(00:00:00) Introduction

(00:02:36) “I’m crying for help on a sinking ship”

(00:16:53) The baseball game that exposes their money dynamic

(00:24:22) Ramit opens up their numbers

(00:40:37) Where their $119K investments came from

(00:47:40) What their childhoods taught them about money

(00:56:46) They’ve never defined their Rich Life

(01:04:04) What happens if nothing changes?

(01:18:32) Can they make the next 15 months work?

(01:31:43) Follow-ups

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